New Hope for Children Waiting Families
We are laid back, fun loving, and really love nothing more than spending time together.
– Blake & Elizabeth
We are Blake and Elizabeth and we are so excited to “meet” you. We are a couple who currently live in New England, although we are transplants. We are originally from Kentucky, which translates into a lot of really yummy meals, facetime, and road trips home. We are laid back, fun loving, and really love nothing more than spending time together. We met in 2011 during college and we are still best friends. Even on the bad, scary, and overwhelming days we know how to make each other laugh and this friendship is the cornerstone of our family. When we are not lounging on our couch watching Netflix with our cat Maggie we are going on ‘adventures’ or spending time with our friends and family. We are so lucky to have such a diverse community who we love beating in board games or watching sports with (of course pizza is included). Our life is full of normal, everyday things and events, but is filled with the most extraordinary people. We love new experiences (adventures) and getting to meet new people. We have been given the opportunity to travel all over the world, which has exposed us to so many different people from so many walks of life and these experiences have been life changing. Our tribe is worldwide and has taught us so much and continues to humble us daily
We are incredibly excited to become parents and have so much love to give.
– Chris & Megan
Dear Expectant Birth Mother,Thank you so much for giving us the opportunity to introduce ourselves and tell you a little bit about our family. We are Christopher and Megan. We recognize the choice you are making is one of the most difficult a woman can face in her lifetime. Entrusting your child to be raised by someone else requires incredible bravery, strength, honesty and, most of all, love. We feel extremely honored and grateful to be considered as adoptive parents by you, so we’d like to start by thanking you.
Chris and I met seven years ago and knew right away we were perfect for each other. Chris works as a software engineer at a cutting edge marketing company and I am an elementary teacher in a town nearby our home. I thoroughly enjoy working with children each and every day as it brings such joy to my life and of course laughs too. We have known both joy and hardships as a couple throughout the years and these experiences have grown our strength, enriched our lives and led us as well as our hearts to our adoption journey which we are so excited about. Through our trials, as a couple our strength has taught us the miracle that every baby is. There was no question in our minds that adoption would be the answer to making our dreams of becoming first time parents come true and growing our family!
We are incredibly excited to become parents and have so much love to give. We have been married over four years and have a strong, honest and caring relationship. We live in a quiet, small town in New Hampshire just a short distance from lakes, mountains and beaches, the best of all worlds. We enjoy the outdoors, adventuring to new places and taking walks with our dog, Shyloh, as well as sitting out on our screen porch that we refer to as our “treehouse.” Our treehouse is a screened in deck that sits up surrounded by trees from our yard where we like to sit and enjoy the sounds of nature while watching the deer and hummingbirds as we relax fireside with friends or family. We have a large extended family on both sides that live nearby and we are all very close knit. We value our time with family and friends and this is a top priority of ours and we plan to share our love of the outdoors, family, and togetherness with our child.
During the summers we can be found vacationing with our families at the lake, or exploring the white mountains camping and most recently even tried out “glamping.” We gather together for all the holidays and enjoy time decorating, cooking/baking, playing games, and making crafts with our niece and nephews. On the casual weekends throughout the fall we can be found visiting local farms to pick apples and pumpkins, going to fairs and watching football together on Sundays at home. We would love the opportunity to incorporate more family traditions that would be important to you as well.
It is obvious the plan you are making is being made out of love, courage and selflessness and that you are trying to make the best decision for this child. We hope by looking at our photos and reading little snippets about our lives, you will find comfort in knowing how much we want to share our lives with a child. We want to assure you that we promise to respect you and make sure your child knows their birth story and birth family. We promise to cherish and love your child with our hearts and souls and to provide a safe, happy home and a life with every opportunity possible. Thank you for your consideration.
Christopher and Megan
We hope you will consider us as you decide about the kind of life you want for your child.
– Ryan, Jocelyn, & Finn
Hi! I’m willing to bet you never thought you’d be in this position reading letters like ours. I can tell you that we didn’t expect to find ourselves writing a letter like this one either. Yet here we are! When I reflect on what has brought us to this moment in our lives, it is impossible to ignore that we are both coming from a place of deep heartache. I like to think that finding each other is the start of something truly beautiful and I recognize that we wouldn’t be here without first facing the challenges that have been thrown at us, whatever they may be. As parents, we truly empathize with you as you face this moment. We ask that you read this letter with an open heart and an open mind. A short letter like this can hardly tell you everything you need to know about us, but hopefully it is enough for you to want to know more.
My name is Jocelyn and my husband’s name is Ryan. We met and fell in love when we were in our upper 20’s almost 12 years ago. Ryan is an active person and if he could be moving around and playing games (any kind) all day long, he would be in heaven. I affectionately call him my Labrador and friends and family have heard me casually say, “I have to go run the lab” on more than one occasion because he is happiest when he is on the move. We met in New Hampshire while I was on a ski trip with my college friends and I fell for his incredible kindness, affection and sense of humor. He’ll tell you that he fell for my love of adventure, childlike energy, and my excellent eHarmony profile (his words ). The fact that I love skiing on moguls and hiking in Acadia National Park as much as he does is a major bonus. Being active together is one of the things that binds us together. It also doesn’t hurt that I love to experiment and try new recipes when I cook, and he will happily eat just about anything I put in front of him. Thank goodness for that because not every meal is a winner. We both work full time jobs, and we mostly sit behind our computers on workdays; Ryan is the head of the construction division at a company that designs and builds banks and I am a director at a market research agency and a self-proclaimed Microsoft Excel geek.
I would not be as active as I am today without Ryan’s influence in my life and he would not be as open to new experiences, traveling to new countries, and exploration if he hadn’t met me. One of the things I love most about our relationship is that we bring out the best in each other and we actively try to be the best versions of ourselves for each other. When one of us is down, the other pulls that person up. This is the backbone of our relationship. Our support for each other is unbreakable. I know this because our support has been tested again and again through our journey to parenthood. It took us three years, but through a combination of IVF, acupuncture and some kind of a miracle, our first son, Finn, was born. Now we find ourselves ready for a different kind of miracle and we hope for the chance of adopting a new baby to add to our family, making Finn a proud big brother.
We intend for Finn and his future sibling to grow up learning values that we hold dear, like strength of character and the importance of supporting family with compassion and empathy. We know we have the help of our tight knit network of family and friends. Our son’s grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and our close circle of friends, many of whom live within 15 miles of our house, will all have an important role to play in how our children are raised. One of our favorite annual events is Friendsgiving where about a dozen families gather at a friend’s house about a week before Thanksgiving. Everyone brings their favorite side dish (we bring sticky buns, a family tradition) and the dogs all run around outside while the children jump on the trampoline in the big grassy yard, the guys play a game of football and the ladies catch up with each other over pre-dinner appetizers. We feel endlessly fortunate and grateful that we are both physically surrounded and emotionally supported by an amazing village of loved ones.
Our son is the sunshine in our world and raising him has been the most singularly rewarding experience of our lives. He is sweet, energetic, creative, resourceful and already excited at the idea of becoming a big brother (at least in as much as he can understand what that means at 2 ½). He cannot get enough of trucks, cars and generally all things that go. To say he is passionate about trucks is an understatement. Every night before bed we tell him another story about the adventures of three best friends: the fire truck, flatbed truck and garbage truck. It takes some creativity, but one is always coming to the rescue of the others to help save the day. It goes without saying that we want our son to have a lifelong friendship with a sibling who will always have a bond to him, wherever life takes them both. We also want to add some more characters to our stories. We look forward to learning about his future sibling’s favorite hero of the day. 🙂
We live in a house up on a hill overlooking a river. We like to think of our house as a sort of adult treehouse with lots of windows and the forest all around us. The river below is slow moving and wide and more often feels like a meandering lake. We are fortunate that our home provides a yearlong source of entertainment and enjoyment. We hang out in and around the river in the spring, summer and fall and ice skate on it in the winter. It is a place for our friends and family to gather, whether taking a walk on the adjacent trail system, sitting by the fire down by the river, or watching the wildlife while lounging in the hammocks. We started teaching Finn to swim this past summer. Finn’s favorite activity was to stand bravely on the edge of the inner tube in his lifejacket, count to 3, then jump into the water! Our dog, 50 lbs. of black and white furriness, lives to chase balls or sticks thrown into the water and to search for green and brown frogs along the water’s edge. Not a day goes by that we don’t feel gratitude for where we get to spend so much of our time together as a family.
Living in NH you must love and embrace the winter, something we thoroughly do! A typical winter weekend consists of Ryan and I packing the car full of ski gear and warm clothes on Friday night, then scooping up Finn from daycare to start our road trip up to the ski mountains. This year we expect to spend a lot of our winter weekends in Rangeley, ME where Ryan’s parents have a lake house near Saddleback mountain. We are so excited to get Finn out on skis for the first time this year! When not learning to ski Finn will get to spend time with his grandparents, building towers out of blocks, driving the big toy crane truck and fire truck that live at their house and reading with them bundled up under the covers.
I can imagine as you read about another family’s life in this context it must feel surreal. What you are going through right now very well could be the toughest thing you’ve ever done. As parents, we know what it feels like to put our son’s needs before our own needs and, though difficult at times for us, we wouldn’t have it any other way. Acts of selflessness, like this decision you are making, can be painfully hard, but I hope you feel comfort knowing that they are also endlessly rewarding to your child and that you can feel comfort knowing that your child is in a happy and safe home full of laughter and love.
These are the types of questions that I imagine would run though my head if I were in your shoes: Will my child be raised in an environment where (s)he will be taught values that are most important to me; honesty, kindness, resilience and the importance of family? Will my child have many opportunities to thrive doing what (s)he loves and have experiences that will shape her/him? Will my child’s adoptive family provide a loving home with the right balance of structure and freedom that will allow my child to grow into the type of person I can admire and feel proud of? If these questions resonate with you, know that these are the types of things we think about as we raise Finn. If you decide on selecting Ryan, Finn and I to be your child’s adoptive family, then know that these are our goals and we will do our very best to deliver on them.
We recognize and respect that a big part of your child’s identity will always be linked to you. If you choose us, then we want you to know that you and your values will always have a place in our conversations and our hearts, for without you, we would not have the miracle of two children to raise, love and cherish. In that situation, we look forward to figuring out how best to navigate an adoption plan with you and welcome hearing your thoughts on open adoption.
Finn has brought us immeasurable joy, laughter and love. It is such a reward to watch Finn grow and figure things out, watch him learn his words and start to control his impulses. Raising him is truly my favorite thing I’ve ever done and getting to do it with Ryan as my partner is a dream come true. We know that the addition of a second child will bring our household exponentially more joy, laughter and love and we just can’t wait to welcome another family member to our little clan.
We hope you will consider us as you decide about the kind of life you want for your child.
We cannot wait to share our lives with a child and to introduce them to the many family and friends that have been anxiously awaiting their arrival.
– Jason & Patrice
Dear Expectant Mother,
Our names are Jason and Patrice. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter to get to know us a little better.
Jason and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4, and are looking forward to many more years together. We met online through a dating site, but almost missed our chance together! Luck would have it that on the same day I planned on deleting my account was the same day Jason wrote to me for the first time; a near miss we can’t believe almost happened! From there, we met, dated, fell in love and grew our relationship together, something we continue to do each day.
Jason and I have known from the very beginning of our relationship that we wanted to have children and grow our family together, either naturally or through adoption, as we knew we may face some challenges.
After a diagnosis of reproductive cancer in 2018 our conversations surrounding adoption grew more and more until finally we decided it was time to pursue it. We understand that even considering an adoption plan for your precious soon-to-be-born baby is very difficult and one that takes an enormous amount of strength, courage and love for your child. Although we do not know each other, please know that you have our respect and support in all the choices you will face. It is our hope and wish that you have a full heart and a peaceful mind while you are guided through the decisions you make for your child.
Jason and I often talk about what our lives will be like as parents and about all the wonderful memories we plan to build together with our family. We’ll talk about all the stories we’ll read together, all the parks and playgrounds we will go to, what funny things they’ll say, decorating Christmas cookies together, taking them Trick-or-Treating, going for walks, and watching movies outside during warm summer nights.
If you decide to make an adoption plan, we want to assure you that we promise to respect you and whatever level of openness and contact that you want to have with your child. We promise to cherish and love your child and to provide a safe, happy, home and a life with every opportunity possible.
We cannot wait to share our lives with a child and to introduce them to the many family and friends that have been anxiously awaiting their arrival. Please know that in addition to your deep love for your child, they are already so loved by us and our families!
Thank you so much for taking the time to get to know us and for considering our family for your child. We are in awe of the courage and strength it takes to make this decision and want you to know we wish you all the support and love you need as you are guided in your decision.
– Jason and Patrice