Laura and Kristen
Dear Birth Mother:
Hello. Thank you. You are going to read that a lot in this letter. We mean it. Every time.
We know that you have a lot of letters to read and great families to consider, and we are grateful that you are considering us to be a part of your adoptive birth plan. Thank you for believing and trusting in us enough to learn more about us. Thank you for possibly allowing us to be a part of your journey and for you to be a part of ours.
Just last night, we had a dinner party with our soon-to-be five year old niece (birthday is t minus 3 days of us writing this to you, so that is important to her that we say she is five) and our 8 year old nephew. If you would indulge us a little more, I think this particular story will help illustrate the type of parents and family we are dreaming of being.
Our nephew, Willie, had a dream the other night that he said he could only tell us. He wanted to talk about it privately with each one of us--including, our dog, Fred. One by one, we stepped into "his" bedroom in our house so he could tell us he had a dream about a girl who wanted to be his boyfriend. Willie had mixed emotions about the dream, going between flattered and embarrassed and excited. Mostly, he needed reassurance that his dream was okay.
During Kristen's one-on-one session, Willie and Kristen devised a plan for Willie to "get the dream out of his head." Kristen asked him where his favorite place to be is, and he responded, "right here with you guys." Ultimately, he chose skiing at Loon Mountain, so each time Willie’s dream appeared, he would think about skiing at Loon. With that, we all settled into our bed to watch a few episodes of Kids Baking Championship before our dinner party came to an end. The evening was uneventful and routine but also magical and so very special.
We dream of building a family of our own so that the dinner parties can include a child of our own—a child who we will love, hear, and respect beyond measure. If we have the privilege of bringing the child into our journey, we will be forever grateful and humbled.
We are Laura and Kristen. We met through mutual friends back in 2012. Kristen was living in Philadelphia, and Laura was living in Boston. We started dating, and a few months later, we knew that we were meant to be. We began the process of untangling our lives in our respective geographic locations to create a new life together in the place we both loved the most—New Hampshire’s seacoast. We moved into a historical house near Kristen’s parents, sister and brother. With our rescue dog, Fred, by our side, we know that we were meant to meet exactly when we did and have been committed to each other every day since we met.
We complement each other to a tee. We are both funny and love to laugh. Laura is always asking questions, and Kristen goes straight to Google for the answer. Laura is spontaneous and adventurous, and Kristen has taught Laura that adventure can be a dinner at home and not just climbing a mountain in South America or holding a sloth in Costa Rica. Kristen knows every word to Beyonce and Lady Gaga, and Laura can sing all the music to Wicked and Les Miserables (albeit, out of tune). Laura throws the pillows on the floor, and Kristen makes the bed the second she gets up. No matter our differences, what we both share is the love we have for each other, the love we will have for the child, and the strong desire to be the moms we are ready to be.
A child that comes into our home will be surrounded by love and attention. We are so fortunate to have both of our families and friends living close by. Kristen’s parents have six grandchildren and cannot wait to add to the mix. Laura’s parents don’t have any grandchildren yet, so this child would occupy the envious position of their first grandchild. Laura’s parents are already trying to kid proof their home so they can have sleep overs and adventures with their grandchild.
We have ten nieces and nephews—some from our biological families and others from our families of choice. Each one is so different, and each one is truly an extension of us. We love our Friday disco dinners and sleep over movie nights as much, and probably more, than our brood. We have family and friends who have been very generous to us and allowed us to build special, deep, meaningful relationships with their children.
We are very lucky that our life is filled with people who surround us with love. We have been fortunate to travel the world and have amazing adventures, but some of our favorite times are the time we spend with our family-- reading, helping with homework, watching hockey games, learning the inner workings of Legos (and trying not to step on them barefoot), seeing Frozen every other weekend, and teaching them and learning from them every chance we get.
We are very grateful for the good fortune in our lives that we cannot wait to share with a child. We have wanted to start a family for over two years and together we have shared the excitement, uncertainty, patience, sadness and hope that this process brings. The one thing we know for sure is that this journey has shown us how strong our desire and determination is to become a family. We have always viewed adoption as an amazing chance to share the immense love we have for children and to offer a child or children some of the same opportunities we have both been fortunate to enjoy in our lives. Our commitment to each other is strong and we are waiting for a child to get married so we can share that beautiful moment as a family. We are excited to start traditions such as disco night, game night, movie night...reading, new pjs at xmas, ice cream for dinner nights
We want to be role models the children in our lives, so each one, including our own, will learn to be a good person, a kind and generous person, a person who loves him/herself and wants to share that love with others. We want to share that it is okay to go through struggles, to ask for help, to take time for themselves and to always strive to learn and grow and live life on their terms.
Thank you for taking the time to learn about us. Even though we don’t know you yet, we have a great amount of respect and admiration for you. We can only try to understand the difficulty in the decisions that lie ahead for you. It is obvious the plan you are making is being made out of love, courage, and selflessness and that you are trying to make the best decisions. We hope by looking at our photos and reading about our lives you will find comfort in knowing how much we want to share our lives with a child.
Thank you for considering us to be a part of your plan. If you believe that we are the right family for your child, we will be humbled by such great honor and work to create as many dinner parties as we can. And, please know, that after our paths diverge, we will always make sure that our son or daughter knows the love story that created our family and that our story begins with you.
Laura and Kristen